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Confinement and Mood Swings

This time round, we have gotten a confinement lady to help me out with the confinement period. I must really thank my friend, Yunn Tyan, for her recommendation. Firstly, good nutritious food to feed the hungry nursing Mommy, rest for Mommy as CL does all the washing and cleaning and that of bb as well, help to coax bb after feeding and especially so for the night feeds of the little one who seems to have night reversal where he is more awake in the night beginning 11.30pm. Mommy could take a snooze while CL try to put him back to his cot before the next feed which can be anywhere in the next 30min to 1.5hr at night. She also prepares some light supper like Milo with biscuits to top up Mommy's energy level in the middle of the night. That saying, CL is not perfect. She can sometimes forget to sterilise Mommy's pump and bottles.

Mommy also gets to spend some time with Keziah, having a CL to tend to bb. Interestingly, Keziah seems to like CL too. Every evening when she is back from Grandma's place, Nei Nei would simply bring her up to Mommy's room and leave her there after cleaning up while Nei Nei goes around her own business till milk time or Daddy's back to tend to Keziah. Meanwhile, Mommy will be busy nursing didi and Keziah would be kept occupied awhile by CL.

Despite so, Mommy seems to have some mild mood swings the past 2 days, with high sensitivity to things. It started out on Monday night. Mommy really wanted to spend some time with Daddy who is often busy caring for Keziah while Mommy rested and fed Abel. She stayed up and waited for Daddy who was home late at 8.30pm due to work. So Mommy sat down with Daddy for dinner for a chat. However, Daddy was busy sms-ing to make business with his photography to earn some milk powder money. Mommy was rather irritated and especially so, when Daddy didn't really react when she left the table shortly to rest in bed. Emotional Mommy started tearing in her room and sending Daddy sms in the night she couldn't sleep to make Daddy realise what Mommy's feeling. Things got better.

Next day, it was gynae visit. Mommy had to go alone coz Daddy was working. Naturally Mommy wanted to be home early so as to nurse Abel. So she asked the always nice nurse at the clinic how long was the wait. Perhaps, it wasn't appropriate to have popped the question in front of other patients who had also waited for a long time due to gynae having a delivery and Mommy having arrived later as the clinic had called to pospone the appointment. However, nurse replied rather harshly, "The other patients have waited for a long time. You should have nursed ur baby before coming." Tears started rolling down again. Lonely and yet received such treatment. Mommy tried to dry up and when she went in, she realised the nurse had actually scheduled her earlier and had to respond in that manner so as to put on a show before other patients who had been there earlier.

That evening, Nei nei brought Keziah back and cleaned her but she had to leave for some class. Keziah was left with Mommy who was nursing didi and CL. Keziah somehow was very sticky to Nei Nei and when she realised Nei nei was going to leave her, she started calling out. She held CL by hand and pulled her to the door to go downstairs. Her cries for Nei nei was really so heartbreaking and so sad, sounding like a lost child. Daddy wasn't home yet and Mommy could understand as his work is relatively heavy recently and there was much to be done. Mommy once again couldn't help but teared again coz she couldn't do much as she was still breastfeeding didi.

OK, hopefully all the hormones will normalise by now. Though this confinement has been rather pleasant, the emotional changes somehow still got on to Mommy.

2 comments:

angela goh said...

Hi Joan,
Hope that you are feeling much better now. I guess it is only natural that we need a lot of love and support after delivery. I felt the same way too when my husband and I had to take care of Sheri on our own in a foreign country in the first few months after she was born. It was really tough as there was no one we could turn to. I was also very emotional and demanding towards my husband even though he tried his best to relieve my burden during that period. The only thing that kept me going at that time was the thought that whatever that I was going through was only temporary. Tomorrow will be better.So, keep your spirits high. Everything will fine.

Joanie said...

Thanks so much. Much better now. Taking as much rest as I can. Juz ran fever last night so I better watch my rest. Yupz, good that hb is supportive, if not I am sure I'll hit post natal blues. Heehee...